I Love My Baby, And...
Motherhood is awesome. But not always. Holding space for the best parts of motherhood seems impossible when the challenging parts feel really heavy – and vice versa! Erin, licensed therapist, and Ruby, licensed therapist candidate, hold nothing back when talking about the dual realities associated with this chaotic, wonderful, hard, hilarious, sad, and undeniably happy part of life. This podcast is a place for community. Submit your thoughts, feelings, or wonderings to our voicemail box or email, and let’s talk about it! We can't wait to hear from you.
Episodes
45 episodes
I Love My Baby, and…My Holidays Aren’t so Holly Jolly
Ok we’ll ask it: can’t we figure out a way to collectively make this time of year less stressful?! The holidays come with a lot of very heavy baggage, mostly revolving around navigating other people’s feelings. And if there’s one th...
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Season 3
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Episode 8
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41:56
I Love My Baby, and...Where'd My Sexuality Go?
Picture this: you grew up in a home that didn’t shame sexuality. You became an adult feeling confident in your sexuality and valued that in your partner.Now, you’re a parent. Your house feels like a nest of chaos + love, largely devoted ...
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Season 3
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Episode 7
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42:59
Let's Ask a Dad! (ft. Ruby’s husband, Jon)
The conversations we have around here - in the therapy room, with our friends, or in our DMs - often end with “ok but how do I say this to my partner?” So I Love My Baby, and…is going to look a little different this week!We a...
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Season 3
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Episode 6
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41:45
I Love My Baby, and…Why Is Everyone So Freely Talking about My Body Now?
Body image obsession certainly doesn’t start in adulthood. But the liberties people take when they’re around someone who is pregnant (and, let’s be honest, after) to comment on, touch, or ask weird questions about their bodies is taken to a who...
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Season 3
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Episode 5
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45:09
I Love My Baby, and…My Family and I Have Become Competitive AF. What Gives?!
Growing your family is exciting! A wild ride! A developmental milestone! A….competition…? For a lot of families, this is absolutely the case. Whether it’s with extended family or your immediate family, the decision and timeline of growing your ...
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Season 3
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Episode 4
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34:39
I Love My Baby, and...What Do I Do with These Effing Intrusive Thoughts?
Intrusive thoughts after having a baby are so common…and can be so awful. They play a role in the postpartum experience for you and can be distressing for the people who love you. Is there anything to do about them? Yes!In th...
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Season 3
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Episode 3
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41:20
I Love My Baby, and…I Know Other Moms Can Do This Better
Do you ever feel like you’re comfortable in your role as a mom, but then those little intrusive thoughts come in and tell you that other moms are doing it better? And because you’re tired, you start to believe those thoughts? Same.We’re ...
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Season 3
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Episode 2
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47:50
I Love My Baby, and…I’m Workshopping the Concept of Self-Care (+what’s coming this season!)
Welcome back, friends!! We took the summer off to drive around to 178 different camps, travel, and plan some awesome episodes. We’re SO happy to be back. In this episode, Erin and Ruby continue to explore the concept of self-care as...
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Season 3
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Episode 1
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54:56
I Love My Baby, and…Do I Have to Just be “Mom” Now?
Whether it’s something you’ve wanted your whole life or something that sorta just happened, the shift to motherhood and all that it entails can catch you by surprise. Suddenly, your life feels like it revolves around feeding, sleeping, enrichme...
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Season 2
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Episode 28
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47:37
I Love My Baby, and…I’m Moving my Career Goal Posts
After having a baby, people generally (not always) fall into one of 2 categories: the “I cannot WAIT to get back to work!” category and the “I no longer give a f*&^% about my job!” category. And it’s not uncommon to think you’re going to be...
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Season 2
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Episode 27
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36:19
I Love My Baby, and…The Sex-pectations Have Totally Changed
Life changes instantly when you have a baby - the routines you know, the relationships you have, the sex you love. Wait…what?!? How can that be?? If you’re one of the millions of women whose relationship with sex changed...
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Season 2
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Episode 26
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34:45
I Love My Baby, And...Teamwork is Not Making the Dream Work Pt. 2
Postpartum partnership problems (say that 10 times fast): we know them, we hate them, we don’t know what to do about them. Your connection to your partner and the other important people in your world can suffer after having a baby, and while it...
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Season 2
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Episode 25
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35:19
I Love My Baby, and…Oops, I Hate my Mother-in-Law
Listen. The mother-in-law (MIL) drama has become this funny, stereotypically negative relationship according to pop culture. But it’s the reality for a LOT of people; it’s a deeply complex relationship! Boundaries are so necessary and can...
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Season 2
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Episode 24
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41:02
Mom Brain Musings: Instagram Parenting Courses
Mom Brain: sometimes it means you’re unable to string together your thoughts, and other times it means you’re stringing together 900 thoughts at 2 o’clock in the morning!In this week’s episode, Erin and Ruby are chatting about Instagram ...
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Season 2
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Episode 23
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37:25
I Love My Baby, and...I Hate Being the Default Parent (pt. 1)
The concept of the default parent is loaded with emotion - for good reason! Parenthood *is* loaded with emotion. There’s generally an association with this term and being the parent who “does it all.” But is there truly a one-size-fits-all defi...
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Season 2
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Episode 22
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39:58
REWIND: F*ck Your Bounceback
One of the most common things we hear both in our DMs and in the therapy room is that the pressure to “bounce back” to who you were before having feels like it’s hitting us from virtually every single corner of our lives. So we thought now migh...
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Season 2
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Episode 21
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37:07
I Love My Baby, and...I'm Surrounded by Toxic Positivity
Have you ever paid close attention to the ways people respond to something you share that is pregnancy or motherhood-related? If not, after listening to this episode, you’re gonna. Because when you’re telling someone about the anxiety you have ...
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Season 2
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Episode 20
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32:25
I Love My Baby, and…SAHM Life has me Feelin’ all the Feels
We hear a lot about the “invisible load” of motherhood, and that’s almost always applied to stay-at-home moms. And what’s truly mind-blowing is that literally none of the work done by SAHMs is invisible!!! It’s constant! It’s ever-changing! You...
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33:15
I Love My Baby, and...I'm Unpacking the Decision to be Done Having Kids
“Family planning” is kind of a weird term. It encompasses so many different aspects of, well, planning for your family. But is there really a clear definition? What if you’re the world’s worst planner?! What then?!?!For some, they have a...
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Season 2
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Episode 18
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41:23
I Love My Baby, and...I Never Imagined I'd Experience Gender Disappointment
Did you find out the gender of your baby? Did you keep it a secret or tell everyone? Did you start planning accordingly? Ok, now we have a harder question for you: did you experience disappointment after you found out?This is...
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Season 2
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Episode 17
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37:03
I Love My Baby, and…the Overwhelm has Overhauled my Life
You know how when you have a baby, the little things suddenly feel really big and overpowering? What was once easy now feels insurmountable. What used to not faze you now makes you feel like you need to call in a lot of reinforcement. ...
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Season 2
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Episode 16
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29:25
I Love My Baby, and...I'm Trapped in the Game of Comparison
If we know that “comparison is the thief of joy,” why the f&^% can’t we stop doing it?! You're struggling to accept that you aren't the mom you thought you'd be, you're consumed with your feelings about that, but you can't stop watching str...
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Season 2
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Episode 15
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33:45
I Love My Baby, and...I Expected Change, but THIS Much!?
How many baby books have you read (or bought but left in your trunk)? How many instagram posts did you scroll through? How many conversations did you have with people in your village-before-they-were-your-village all about the changes that will...
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Season 2
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Episode 14
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35:35
I Love My Baby, And...I'm Already Stressed About Holidays
The holidays are (almost?) here! And, let’s be honest, those come with a *little* bit of stress sometimes, especially when you’re navigating postpartum and establishing boundaries with family members. In this week’s episode of I Lov...
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Season 2
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Episode 13
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49:29
Midnight Musings Minisode: Taylor Swift, the NFL, and Ferris Bueller's Day Off...?
Welcome back to the Midnight Musings Minisodes!The Midnight Musings Minisodes are a little bite-sized peak into what goes on when Erin and Ruby stop recording and start going off the rails. Sometimes you’re up in the middle of the night...
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Season 2
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Episode 12
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17:29